h2/h3: replace state.drain counter with state.dselect_bits

- `drain` was used by http/2 and http/3 implementations to indicate
  that the transfer requires send/recv independant from its socket
  poll state. Intended as a counter, it was used as bool flag only.
- a similar mechanism exists on `connectdata->cselect_bits` where
  specific protocols can indicate something similar, only for the
  whole connection.
- `cselect_bits` are cleard in transfer.c on use and, importantly,
  also set when the transfer loop expended its `maxloops` tries.
  `drain` was not cleared by transfer and the http2/3 implementations
  had to take care of that.
- `dselect_bits` is cleared *and* set by the transfer loop. http2/3
  does no longer clear it, only set when new events happen.

This change unifies the handling of socket poll overrides, extending
`cselect_bits` by a easy handle specific value and a common treatment in
transfers.

Closes #11005

tests/http/test_05_errors.py

@@ -89,6 +89,6 @@ class TestErrors:
         assert len(r.stats) == count, f'did not get all stats: {r}'
         invalid_stats = []
         for idx, s in enumerate(r.stats):
-            if 'exitcode' not in s or s['exitcode'] not in [18, 56, 92, 95]:
+            if 'exitcode' not in s or s['exitcode'] not in [18, 55, 56, 92, 95]:
                 invalid_stats.append(f'request {idx} exit with {s["exitcode"]}\n{s}')
         assert len(invalid_stats) == 0, f'failed: {invalid_stats}'