openssl: fix the data race when sharing an SSL session between threads

The SSL_Session object is mutated during connection inside openssl,
and it might not be thread-safe. Besides, according to documentation
of openssl:

```
SSL_SESSION objects keep internal link information about the session
cache list, when being inserted into one SSL_CTX object's session
cache. One SSL_SESSION object, regardless of its reference count,
must therefore only be used with one SSL_CTX object (and the SSL
objects created from this SSL_CTX object).
```
If I understand correctly, it is not safe to share it even in a
single thread.

Instead, serialize the SSL_SESSION before adding it to the cache,
and deserialize it after retrieving it from the cache, so that no
concurrent write to the same object is infeasible.

Also
 - add a ci test for thread sanitizer
 - add a test for sharing ssl sessions concurrently
 - avoid redefining memory functions when not building libcurl, but
   including the soruce in libtest
 - increase the concurrent connections limit in sws

Notice that there are fix for a global data race for openssl which
is not yet release. The fix is cherry pick for the ci test with
thread sanitizer.
d8def79838

Closes #14751

lib/curl_threads.c

@@ -35,7 +35,9 @@
 #endif
 
 #include "curl_threads.h"
+#ifdef BUILDING_LIBCURL
 #include "curl_memory.h"
+#endif
 /* The last #include file should be: */
 #include "memdebug.h"