cmake: fix and tidy up c-ares builds, enable in more CI jobs

- set `CARES_NO_DEPRECATED` to avoid c-ares deprecation warnings.
  Like autotools does.

- drop unused c-ares header directory when building libtests and test
  servers.

- disable TrackMemory (aka `CURLDEBUG`) feature for MSVC builds.
  It fails on test 558 and 1330, saying that TrackMemory isn't working.
  Left a FIXME about it.

- GHA/macos: enable c-ares in a cmake job.

- GHA/windows: enable c-ares in MSVC job.
  Fixes #14202

- GHA/windows: add c-ares mingw autotools job with tests.
  (move `--with-windows-unicode` option from 'default' job to
  this one to keep the former "default".)
  Put these tests on ignore for now:
  ```
  FAIL 472: 'aws-sigv4 with query' HTTP, aws-sigv4
  FAIL 1299: 'Send "OPTIONS *" with --request-target' HTTP, --request-target
  FAIL 1613: 'Send "OPTIONS *" with --request-target to a proxy' HTTP, HTTP proxy, --request-target
  ```
  Ref: https://github.com/curl/curl/actions/runs/10388126947/job/28765761441#step:15:5902

  472: fails with mingw despite Unicode enabled.
  1299, 1613: seem like a case of expanding '*' to a filename.

- GHA/windows: enable c-ares in mingw cmake job.

Closes #14541

tests/server/CMakeLists.txt

@@ -30,9 +30,6 @@ function(setup_executable _test_name)  # ARGN are the files in the test
     "${CURL_SOURCE_DIR}/lib"  # for "curl_setup.h"
     "${CURL_SOURCE_DIR}/src"  # for "tool_xattr.h" in disabled_SOURCES
   )
-  if(USE_ARES)
-    include_directories(${CARES_INCLUDE_DIRS})
-  endif()
 
   target_link_libraries(${_test_name} ${CURL_LIBS})